Hey... they are there for a reason.... I'm not implying that everyone in that race IS according to their stereotypes, but you always have someone that comes along and fucks it us for the rest of us/them....
I'm labeled as a beaner, a wetback, a spic, and I won't sit here and tell you that I'm not, because I am... but at least I accept it, and I'm not offended a damn bit about it...
How about you? Do you believe in stereotypes? (I'd say yes since you asked with "too")
I'd be lying if I said I didn't, but I try not to. I live in what most consider the south and I know I have somewhat of an accent, but I am neither a redneck nor a hillbilly. I also have long hair and don't fit into that stereotype either. Unlike you I am personally tired of the assumptions and prejudice. (Btw ... rednecks and hillbillys aren't a race) ;p
you can either be hispanic person or a spic, beaner, or a wetback..since you lable yourself as that then you probably are..just like you can be a black person or a nigger, when black people call each other niggers then they probably are- One thing Ive learned is sooner or later, people will let you know who they really are..I had to neg you for being a hater, even though you are hatin on yourself,,,
ok, this is how I see it (if anyone is interested)...
first point is that the father had previously warned and punished this girl in a civilised calm manner (3 month grounding with a warning of more severe repercussions should this event repeat itself....sure enough, it did, and he kept his word)...that is called consistency.
Second, she has been noted for being disrespectful and even though I don't feel I could have shot the laptop, I would have taken it away for a spell until the respect returned and an apology was received.
This man is the patriarch of his family and he (with his wife) is the one who sets the rules and the repercussions. How he deals with it is up to him, not the kids. He owns everything of hers, she is just borrowing it till she leaves the house.
It would have been better to talk about this, but I do see his point about retaliating in kind....she opened the can of worms by making her family business public, so it is only fitting that she feels what that embarrassment and humiliation is like. Had she discussed this instead of posting, I am sure the outcome would have been different.
Kids need to learn early on that life is not free and that to obtain desirable property, you must earn it one way or the other. I hardly call getting coffee or doing chores "slave driving". Two valuable lessons come from this activity; you do not get anything for nothing/life is hard, and second; cause and effect.
If the child chooses to piss on the boundaries set without regard or respect, then they need to be brought in line. He shot the laptop (which was his to do whatever he wishes to) he did not use his fists or a weapon on the child. I just hope that the message finally sinks into this disrespectful brat's thick skull...
so, sure, it could have been handled differently, but the man did not break any laws and everything he did was well withing his rights as a parent to do so. That was his method and we have to respect that it is his decision, no-one elses.
My child does chores as we live on a farm, but she doesn't do my chores. She doesn't fetch me coffee and I don't fetch her juice. She makes a mess she cleans it up. I make a mess I clean it up. As far as this father after reading his response to media and his facebook postings, I do have a greater respect for him. I don't think I would go to that extreme and I probably wouldn't have handled their families instant fame as well as he did. I now feel a little different about this because of his civility and proper responses. I can say I learned something today.
I agree about the my chores thing, but it is give and take...I will fetch the kids a juice, if I am going for one myself. Their mom will bring a baked treat to them frequently, so when she asks for a cup of tea in the morning, the kids do it. It's all about balance and consistency.
I was in agreement about not doing the parents chores until I read the father's reasoning. The parents work to provide the kids a service (food, clothing, phones, computer etc ) so in return the kids can perform small chores that make the parents life a little easier. It still works out to a "you scratch my back ill scratch yours" type of deal.
My dad would have stuck that laptop up my ass. All of the breeders that think he should have put the laptop in pawn or donate it to the needy or blah, blah, blah, are exactly what the fuck is wrong with the kids today. You disrespect your parents or pull some shit like that, it's an ass beating. Kudos to this guy. need more parents like him. Enough is enough. Your little fuck trophies are entitled to nothing but food, clothing, and a roof over their head. Anything more should be earned.
He should have just grabbed the little brat and beat her ass! Too many parents worried about getting in trouble with the school or law if they're kid tells or screams abuse... but I will go to jail before I raise a spoiled little shit. My children are respectful. They are good children. One because I did talk to them and understand their frustrations. But I also would beat their asses if they got out of line. In which I haven't had to do in years.
Awesome, even more respect for the father. I am impressed he is a man of character and Im confident his daughter is going to learn a valuable lesson from this. If I could plus this father on here I would, but since i cannont ill plus you Angel!
To those question his parenting... Unless he's molesting or abusing her, it's not your place. You know what's funny? She is bitching at her parents for doing these monotonous chores, but if she continues on the road she's on she'll be doing these same tasks and dealing with even bigger assholes for minimum wage. Realise this. Her parents have literally given her everything "she owns". Hell, they may even pay for her to go to school. Yet, she has the audacity to speak ill of the only people that are willing to take care of her (pedophiles don't count 16 year olds think they're Oogie). If she doesn't learn her place in the grand scheme of things she will get a rude awakening. The world doesn't shoot at your laptop. The world is taking aim at your head and heart. Literally and hypothetically.
I may not entirely agree on how he handled it, or having your kid fetching your coffee, but after reading his response to media I do have a whole lot of respect for this man! Hat off, we need more like him.
"we're not going to go on your talk show, not going to call in to your radio show, and not going to be in your TV mini-series"
"Additionally, there's absolutely NO way I'm going to send my child the message that it's OK to gain from something like this. It would send her a message that it's OK to profit at the expense of someone else's embarrassment or misfortune and that's now how I was raised, nor how she has been raised"
Has she run away yet? It shouldn't be too much longer before she drops out of school and takes off with any boy that has a car/truck. Yee Haw!
My impression is that this guy waited too late to begin enforcing discipline on his kid. And maybe that is understandable since the kid had to deal with mom & dad's divorce. He was "taking it easy" on her. But now he wants to make up for lost time by going "over the top" with the discipline and the chores.
Don't worry about it dude....she is probably not going to live under your roof much longer anyway.
I've been working since I was eleven, and everything I wanted, I'd have to buy it for myself. but that only taught me that things are expensive, that money is not easy to earn, and that I had to thank and appreciate everything my mother could give me...
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